We live in a society that’s sexist in ways it doesn’t understand. One of the consequences is that men are extremely sensitive to being criticized by women. I think it threatens them in a very primal way, and male privilege makes them feel free to lash out.
This is why women are socialized to carefully dance around these issues, disagreeing with men in an extremely gentle manner. Not because women are nicer creatures than men. But because our very survival can depend on it.—
The whole article sadly hits very close to home.
On religion in general
We know your view of the Abrahamic faiths, but I’m curious to know if it extends to the other religions of the world, such as religious Buddhism, Hinduism, Bahá’í, persisting indigenous faiths, the various branches of modern paganism, etc.?
I’m opposed to any organized belief system with fundamental tenets based on revealed knowledge from a supernatural entity, and I am radically opposed to any closely held belief that allows for a supernatural entity (deity or otherwise) to be used as the proximate cause or justification for human behavior.
That said, I am not opposed to maintaining certain religious traditions as an important part of cultural heritage, except (as is often the case) when those traditions are used as the proximate cause or justification for human suffering.
zaradeannaxxx asked: I was thinking, anti-feminists try to make the argument that feminists have a victim complex (which is weird because pointing out that a group is victimized by something and having a victim complex are two different things). But really, who has a more obvious victim complex than MRAs who whine and bemoan about being 'friendzoned' and women not sleeping with them, and take every single thing that women do as a personal attack.
Want to Un-Learn Your Socialized Niceness and Reinforce your Assertiveness?
Practice By Using the Following Phrases When the Opportunity Arrises:
"I’m not interested."
"(Please) Leave me alone."
"I’d rather you not."
"That doesn’t interest me at all."
"You need to stop."
"That’s not what I said."
"I don’t owe you/anyone an explanation."
"That’s too personal."
"I would like some privacy."
"That doesn’t work for me."
"I’d like to be by myself."
"I’m going to leave now."
These words and phrases might evoke thoughts of reacting to someone bringing unwanted sexual advances. But how can we expect girls and women to be able to say no in such extreme circumstances when we’ve been socialized to avoid confrontation in such “small” circumstances as when a man is talking us when we’d rather be left alone?
You can practice exercising and nurturing your assertiveness (and confidence) by incorporating phrases like this in your day-to-day life.
I was thinking of this today, because whenever any women had to leave the workshops to run to the restroom, they apologized, and also apologized before asking any questions. I noticed this and made it a point not to say “I’m sorry” before asking my question, and even then, it was so hard not to.